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What does it look like to love?

Focus first on your need to change, not on hers or his. It may be that your spouse is sinning against you far more than you are against him or her. But you will not give an account for that to the Lord Jesus. You will give an account for your responses to it. That is the great battle. Will you change?
– John Piper

Wow. Conviction all over me as God uses this quote, posted on a fellow sister’s blog, to take what I posted about last night a step further.

I realize that this quote specifically speaks of marriage, but in all reality, the truth in the second half of this quote applies to us all, in every acquaintanceship, every friendship, every family relationship, and every marriage. Every-single-one. We are not held accountable for the wrong things they do — we are held accountable for how we respond in every moment of that relationship.

Pride must disintegrate as we move forward in life. The less pride we carry, the easier it is to respond in humility and with grace. I suppose this is one of those things that we will never master while we are in our mortal bodies. Only the Holy Spirit can enable us to overcome the pride that so easily and naturally rises in us. Though we will never perfect this — it is something that we must strive for, always.

My dear friend whom I referenced earlier addressed this; that we should not try to remove the speck from our fellow brother’s eye before removing the plank from our own. (Matthew 7:3) I agreed with her words wholeheartedly. How often do we say or do things that are out of line while trying to correct someone else? More so, how often have I had negative thoughts about someone because of their decisions or actions? How is this edifying to the Body of Christ? It is not. I cannot control the person, but I CAN (by the power of the Spirit) control my RESPONSE, and THAT is what I am going to be held accountable for on the day I stand before the King of Kings.

And — if you think about it, as the person to whom you aren’t judging…the one to whom you are so careful of every response to…the one who expects you to treat them like everyone else does…as he sees you responding differently, with grace and mercy, he will see Christ in you. You will be making eternal impacts on those lives, instead of causing destruction.

Which goes back to my last post. Love never gets different than a choice.

Love brings life. Pride brings death.


Does love (loving the way the Bible outlines) ever get any easier?

A question I posed to a sweet mentor of mine late last night. Her answer? “Megan, it never gets any different than a choice.”

It all comes back to love. Every-single-time. This is why Christ said,

“‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it, ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ On these two commandments hang the law and the prophets.” (Matthew 22:37-40)

As I allow my mind to sink into this, I have realized the truth of it. Does not every single call of the Christian life require and ultimately come down to love? 1 Corinthians 13 (specifically vs. 1-3) speaks about this. If we have all abilities and possessions but lack love, they profit us absolutely nothing. Where love lacks – pride reigns.

“By pride comes nothing but strife…” (Proverbs 13:10a)

“Pride goes before destruction and a haughty spirit before a fall. Better to be of a humble spirit with the lowly than to divide the spoil with the proud.” (Proverbs 16:18-19)

Love brings life. Pride brings death.

We cannot love with our own love the way the Scriptures call us to. We are flawed, therefore everything that we manufacture on our own is flawed. The amazing thing is that by the power of the Holy Spirit of God, we can love with His perfect, unfailing, unchanging love.

While it is true that He gives us the power to love in this way, we STILL must CHOOSE to love…to love in a way that is above our own ability.

Loving this way is often a challenge and sacrifice. Loving the unlovely is at times extremely difficult. It’s inconvenient. It requires time, devotion, and sometimes material possessions. This brings me back to my question, and my mentor’s answer.

Does love (the way the Bible outlines) ever get an easier?

Friend, it never gets any different than a choice.

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